Post by himiko sabbrawrra on Jul 20, 2006 9:48:10 GMT -5
monjas said:
Parents / Family are usually too close to the situation to understand. Also they are only thinking of them selves at a time like this … how is your divorce going to look to their friends. It is not your friends, your hobbies or past actions that lead to this. So, in most cases they find fault in the things they don’t want to understand and blame the person closes to them. Looking to family or clergy for support, in my experience 13 years ago, you will not always find it. My support came from the most unlikely source. Not because they told me what I wanted to hear, because they told me what I needed to hear. I’m sure you will find your support point too. You will live through it, if you choose to. If you allow yourself to think you are failure, you will be drawn in to the pits of despair. From your last post it seems like you have made a plan. Take the time to grieve, but do not dwell on it. Devoice is like someone dieing, but you also know the death is not real, they will go on with their life as you must go on with yours … Remember in devoice as in death, “Mourn them, do not. Miss them, do not.” You are is our thoughts as you work through this.Thanks. I do have a plan which is good,but im also terrified to see him as I go threw this. Part of me will want to not go to the base anymore after all this is said and done. I will for food as I have friends that will take me on base for it all. Ill still have medical benifits at least beinf a navy vet per say.. but that dont get me base rivilages..
but some things are at least looking up. You are right.. I don't need to miss him. He's been gone for 6 moinths anyway so thats not the issue.. its I htink everything else.. 